I have a friend who recently lost her job. I have coached her before on this matter as she used to go for jobs in what she knew she could do even though it is not what she wanted to do as a career.
She had spent many years in hospitality and was very efficient at making cafe food and coffee.
What my friend really wanted to do was work in an office. She put herself through college to earn a qualifications in business and office but found it difficult to be employed in this field and ended up working in a cafe.
She did manage to find some office work part time for a while and worked in the cafe to supplement her income. A step in the right direction.
When I left school I didn’t know what I wanted to do. The school Career’s Advisor put a book the size of a telephone book on all our desks and basically said “Choose a career to work at and be successful for the rest of your life”.
As a creative type of person I would be lucky if the book even got opened. No-one looked at my grades or asked me any questions to help me find something that would suit my skills.
One day my mother came in and announced “TAFE enrolments are today and you are going to be a Secretary.” Can I just say that I didn’t know what I wanted but that was the one thing I knew I didn’t want. I didn’t want to be cooped up inside, wondering how my butt expanded so quickly.
Being the obedient child I was, and with no other options, I went to Secretarial school, followed by many office jobs because that’s all I could do.
We often pigeon-hole and limit ourselves because we don’t want to seem egotistical by seeming too confident and often belittle ourselves because we are “not as good as” the next person. With this thinking we will never be as successful as the person who lifts themselves up.
I told my friend that she had to apply for some jobs that were a little out of her reach – fake it till you make. I told that I believed that she was capable of more and that she would be successful if she did this. Just doing this exercise gives you a little confidence boost, especially if you get an interview.
Sometimes we just need someone to believe in us a little bit more than we believe in ourselves.
We are all capable of more!
Confidence will win you the position. Working hard to live up to that level will keep you there and make your more successful.