How do you feel when your best intentions are not welcome?

We like to feel useful and, if you’re anything like me, enjoy fixing a problem before someone realizes it is an actual problem.

In the movie Whiskey Tango Foxtrot (2016) Tina Fey plays Kim Barker, a journalist who recounts her wartime coverage in Afghanistan.  It is based on the book “The Taliban Shuffle: Strange Days in Afghanistan and Pakistan”.

In this movie the Marines keep repairing a local village well, that they assume is being bombed by terrorists. The village women inform Kim that they are destroying the well because their time walking down to the river is when they can chat and walk about free without their men. Kim tells the General this who agrees not to repair the well and not to tell the men of the village the real reason why their well kept being destroyed, and letting the women of the village have their secret time.

Sometimes our best intentions are not received in the manner it is given and we can learn to give support when it is requested – not when we think it should be done.  We don’t necessarily need to stand back waiting, but it is best to ask a person first if they would like your help.

Sometimes standing away from a problem provides a better vantage point to see a solution that the person with the problem cannot see, and they may appreciate that viewpoint.  For this reason, a suggestion of how you see that something could be of help and, if they agree, THEN you may be able to assist them.

During my time of learning about losing weight without dieting or exercising LOADS of well-meaning people tried to help me to lose weight by sharing their dieting tips, or experiences others had with Lap-Band surgery, etc.  And I was prescribed Ozempic from a few doctors but I refused because I needed to be able to tell people that I reached my goal of natural weight, only by changing the way my body deals with eating what I have always eaten and how I choose to move – less than I have always moved.  AND I needed to be able to see how my body would make the changes.  If I took pills then I would never know.

I didn’t want people to point fingers and say:

• Yeah, but you just used fancy words for dieting
• Yeah, but you had a surgery to force it to happen
• Etc

You can still gain weight again by either of these options.  My way ensures you never have to worry about what, or how much you eat – EVER!  No fancy wording.  No secret exercising but calling it “just going for a walk”, or “playing with the dog and having fun”.

I had to listen respectfully to those people, and thank them for their suggestion because they didn’t think the same as I did.  Their paradigm is different than mine, yet I didn’t have the proof to say “this is my reality – here are my results”.  That was the worst part of all the years it has taken me to discover the key to getting to your ideal size/weight without dieting or exercising.

I encourage being helpful however, I encourage you to discover if there is a problem to be solved first.

This is a great way to enjoy A Fabulous Life!